Let's Get You Started
What Do You Want to Talk About Most?
Last week, in a post about Ride-or-Die moments with twentysomethings, I asked parents to comment about whether their young adult kids asked for too little or too much. Once of the responses I received was this: “Ugh. Don’t Get Me Started.”
But…I want to get you started! Or more accurately, I want you to get me started. I want you to tell me what’s on your mind so I can respond.
So, this week, rather than a public post, I’m making a public plea.
Let me know what you’d most like for me to start talking about—or start talking about more.
Let me know where you’re stuck with your twentysomething.
Let me know what you’ve been avoiding dealing with.
Let me know what you’re tired of talking to your twentysomething—or your spouse or friends—about.
Let me know what you’re curious about or angry about or worried about or excited about.
As I say to my twentysomething clients, if you don’t tell me what’s wrong, I can’t help you make it right. The more I understand your problem, the better able I’ll be to offer a solution.
So, readers: How can I help you and/or your twentysomething?
If you raise something in the comments, I will address the issue in a post.
That’s what I’m here for—for you!
I would love advice on how to reconnect with our 21 year old who has distanced herself from us. When she is home she won’t eat with us but 1/week and eats as fast as she can so she doesn’t have to spend any more time than necessary.
She spends more money than she should eating out with friends even though I buy food she likes. in my opinion and is depleting her savings that she needs to buy a car in a few years (half a car, we agreed to pay half).
I think I know why she pulled away bufanda I am trying to make her. Feel safe but I think k it may be too late.
I would like to know more about coaching and not nagging my twenty something through this time when friendships are changing/disappearing and they have to put themselves out there to make new friends and date. My oldest (23.5)struggles more than my younger two (22,but they are twins so I attribute some of their confidence to having a “ride or die” built in). This summer the twins will separate upon college graduation and I know they will struggle with this as they go on to their desired careers. I am blessed with successful and employed children. One is a teacher, one an engineer and the other is entering the financial industry. The oldest moved out by choice to experience what wasn’t experienced bc of Covid. Missed end of senior year of highschool and freshman year of college (not a good time, and also missed out on establishing friendships).
I guess I am asking for support in the social emotional. My oldest feels behind bc of lack of dating, one “relationship” that was doomed from the start, friends moving everywhere and doing their own thing and Being a teacher is a different lifestyle than corporate.
Maybe I am asking for support to learn to not worry and that they will find their people.
We were a tight family unit growing up and I too am floundering in this new era of parenting/coaching as they move out and then in and then out.